Adultery can either be taken seriously, to the depths of a drama or erotic thriller or be taken with a pinch of salt. Rom-coms have used cheating on one's partner for laughs, hijinks or an excuse for an elaborate set piece involving switching rooms hiding under beds, and jumping out of windows etc. Writer and director Caroline Vignal seems to enjoy this story element, even including it in her previous film My Donkey, My Lover and I. But It's Raining Men leaves the countryside shenanigans behind and focuses more on Iris's journey through sexual satisfaction all whilst trying to balance her family life.
Nearing 50, parts of Iris' life may be going well, her children and her successful business, but she has no sex life. Despite having a loving husband, though he only seems to be concerned with work these days, the two haven't had sex in years. After a stranger suggests she take a lover, Iris' world opens up; no sooner has she set herself up on an app aimed at married people, the matches come flooding in. But while she might finally be sexually satisfied, other important parts of her life start to get neglected.
The stereotype of a middle-aged woman being ignored or neglected until she starts to be adventurous or have frequent sex is as worn out as Iris looks at the start of this film. Though this is a rom-com, it is quite saddening to see Iris mope around wishing that her husband would even kiss her. So when she decides to be more confident and go for what she wants, this literal lust for life (and men) is uplifting as if she is shaking off the dusty trope and finally having fun!
The more lacklustre part of the story is any lack of explanation. Usually, there is more of a hint at why a married couple who seem happy on the surface have drifted away from each other despite sharing a life and bed each night – it could be that Stephane has become preoccupied with work and Iris has felt invisible and powerless to bring up their lack of intimacy. But we'll never know and perhaps it doesn't matter as it's not the main point of the story. The most enjoyable part of the film surprisingly is not the sexual escapades of Iris, but the rekindling romance with her husband. We get a glimpse at how they used to be; the silly amusing flirting makes for a nice contrast against how she is with other men.
Whether you enjoy rom-coms about adultery or those that express a woman's freedom through impromptu musical numbers in the street, It's Raining Men is an enjoyable watch. It's not complicated and there is definitely satisfaction in watching Iris make her way through various sexual encounters – some more pleasurable than others. You don't watch this for the story, you watch it for Laure Calamy who brings the comedy, heart and soul of this film together superbly. Both realistic and fantastical, It's Raining Men is that little slice of escapism and strangely, the pick-me-up you might not realise you needed.
It's Raining Men releases in UK & Irish cinemas January 10th 2025
